Dad
I got a call from my sister tonight. Apparently when the nurses went in to check on Dad earlier today he was non-responsive. They did some tests and found that he is in renal failure. They called my sister to find out how heroic we wanted them to be if Dad worsens.
She didn’t want to make that decision on her own. So she called my two brothers. They weren’t home so she left a message. Then she called me.
I told her that I didn’t think that Dad would want to be the way he is, at least not the Dad I knew before all this. The Dad I knew was a vital, energetic, and intelligent man with a very wry sense of humour. I love Dad a lot, but the person I saw was a mere shell of the man he used to be. He was hesitant, confused and not really there.
I told my sister that they shouldn’t resuscitate him if the need arises. I think that palliative care is all that’s needed now. We just need to let him go.
I’ll be going up on Monday regardless of what happens over the weekend. I could go up tomorrow, but what is the point? I don’t want to be the one to comfort my brother. There’s no business that I can take care of on the weekend even if he does die.
So that’s how things are now.
July 9th, 2010 at 11:21 pm
It sounds like you are comfortable with your decision; it makes sense. I’ll keep your family in my prayers.
July 10th, 2010 at 6:10 am
I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad. I think you’ve made the right decision but it’s a hard one. Take care of yourself, ok? I’m sending good thoughts.
July 10th, 2010 at 9:17 am
Oh, hon, I’m sorry to hear that. I agree with Sassy, that palliative care is probably the best thing now, though it is a very hard decision. My thoughts and prayers are with you dad, you, and the rest of your family. (((hugs)))
July 10th, 2010 at 12:52 pm
I’m so sorry. It’s a difficult thing, but it sounds like you’re doing what’s right.
July 10th, 2010 at 8:57 pm
I’m so sorry. That’s so terribly sad. Big big hug to you.